What if your success block is really just an outdated pattern of self-protection?

Your Success Block:

The Cloak of Surrender

You have big dreams and goals. There are amazing experiences you want to have and breath-taking adventures you want to go on. You want to live your best life and inspire others to do the same. 

So you start to pursue those goals. You put the time in. You put the effort in. And then you get stuck.

“Is this what I should be doing? Is this right? Is there a better way? What if it’s not good enough? What if I should focus on something else? Is there a better way to say this? ..”

You second-guess yourself. You question yourself. You doubt yourself.

Your mind is going into overdrive, a million ‘what ifs’ all at the same time. It’s exhausting. It’s daring.

You wait for some clarity. You wait for the confusion to lift. But all that happens is that you go back and worth. You hesitate. You waver. And nothing changes. 

Nothing happens. Your next level success goal feels out of reach.

 

Can You Relate?

If you’re like me and so many of my clients and students who struggle to make fast, bold moves and to be confidently decisive, then you might be able to relate to some of the following fears:

✖️ What if I make a mistake?

✖️ What if there’s a better choice available?

✖️ What if this doesn’t work out?

✖️ Maybe if I wait, I’ll figure it out …

✖️ What if there’s a way to go about this that I don’t know?

✖️ What will other people think of me when they see me make this mistake?

✖️ I wish someone could tell me what to do about this!

✖️ If other people see me do this, they will think less of me.

✖️ I lose all credibility if I am seen to make the wrong choice.

✖️ I better not do anything until I’m sure that this is the right thing to do …

And so on and so forth … scary fears, aren’t they?

 

I know that these beliefs and fears feel very true.

And it makes sense! Because at one point in your life - at the stage where your brain began to make sense of the world and figure out how it was all working - you were punished when someone else decided that you had made a mistake. 

Maybe they shouted at you. Maybe they were disappointed in you. Maybe they even threatened, punished or hurt you?

In any case, it wasn’t safe to just do your thing.

Doing your thing could have serious consequences for you and so you started to consider your every move. 

What used to feel light, playful and easy, what used to come from a place of innate inspiration and creativity, quickly became heavy and scary.

It stifled your curiosity, your spontaneity and your fun. 

Today, you’re still caught up in this pattern that’s holding you back from making the moves that allow you to do what you feel called to do, to trust yourself, to be decisive and to follow your internal guidance and intuition. 

Today, this pattern of self-doubt and surrender that once kept you safe has become your biggest success block.

How Does Wearing the Cloak of Surrender Show up in Your Career or Business?

Every time you doubt yourself and struggle to make a decision or take action, you’re wearing the Cloak of Surrender.

Every time you go against your instincts and follow orders or other people’s recommendations, you’re wearing the Cloak of Surrender.

Every time you listen to the doubts in your head instead of the inspiration in your heart, you’re wearing the Cloak of Surrender. 

In your career, you often dither and waver. When you have decided what goal you want to achieve, you move forward and achieve it but when it comes to setting new goals or achieving your next level, you really struggle because it feels like you have to make these hugely important decisions without enough details and information.

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And What About Your Relationships?

You are the partner or friend who lets the other person make all the decisions! 

“What shall we have for dinner?” - “I’m not sure, choose what you like.”

“What film shall we watch?” - “Which one do you fancy?”

“Where should we go on holiday?” - “Wherever you like!”

It might seem nice but letting the other person constantly get what they want creates an imbalance and inequality.

It also puts the responsibility for decision-making solely on the other person which can either lead to resentment on their behalf or it makes it easy for others to be domineering and selfish in the relationship.

You change this dynamic when you connect more deeply to your desires, you don’t surrender to your doubts and you grow by allowing yourself to make more decisions minus any pressure or expectations. 

So yes, I can clearly hear you asking,

"Why Am I Wearing This Cloak of Surrender?!"

Wearing the Cloak of Surrender is a self-protective strategy you developed as a child to keep yourself safe.

You were praised when you pleased and served others but you were shamed when you did your own thing, when you focused on yourself or when you simply expressed who you were. You quickly learnt how to avoid the horrible feelings that came with not pleasing those around you!

Of course, we have to acknowledge that doing so also helped you get to where you are at now in your career or business. 

But here’s the thing …

 

What if you got those amazing results DESPITE wearing the Cloak of Codependency?

 

What if you could have achieved even more if doubt hadn’t stifled your intuition and you had made decisions super-fast just because you trusted yourself so very much?

What if all of that had helped you to grow more, achieve more and amass more wealth, fun and fulfilment?

What if by now you would be leaping from next level goal to next level goal because you were so deeply connected to yourself that you just knew what to do and had fun while doing it? 

What if you never worried about making mistakes because you just saw them as learning experiences that you could grew from?

And what if all of that is possible for you right now?

I have a feeling you’re ready to experience soul-aligned success that takes you into the realms of self-actualisation …

INTRODUCING

Soul-Aligned Success Coach

Where empowered inner healing and soul-alignment helps you to unlock your gifts, unleash your potential and realise your success goals.

You were born perfect with unique gifts and talents.

There is something only you are meant to bring to this world.

You have a deeper purpose and you have a special message.

Both of them are hidden below layers of conditioning, some unresolved trauma, other people’s judgments you've internalised, your fears and insecurities, and lots of lies and limiting beliefs.

When you find yourself going through the motions, feeling burnt out, frustrated or trapped in outdated patterns that once protected you but are now holding you back from achieving the success and impact you know you can have, you know it’s time for a BIG change.

All It's Time To Become All of You!

To unleash your truth.

To unlock your gifts.

To activate your potential.

To finally feel complete, worthy and free.

And that is possible for you!

If you are ready for it, nothing and no one can stop you. I promise.

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As a trauma-informed psychotherapist and self-actualisation coach for ambitious high-achievers, I have helped hundreds of my amazing clients uncover their gifts and truths by healing some old wounds that have kept them stuck in self-sabotage patterns they mostly weren’t aware of.

Prior to coming to work with me, they had tried mindset work, energy shifting, reiki, counselling, hypnotherapy and lots of shiny sales and marketing strategies that promised them their first billion in the next 4 weeks. Everything has value in its own way but I like to address root causes with my Soul-Aligned Success Activation method. It is the only method I have discovered so far that makes logical sense and therefore allows our brain to drop its resistance to the changes we need to make so that we can get what we want.

Together, we work with all of you: your emotions, your nervous system, your brain, your mind and thoughts, your desires and your actions.

I show you how to understand yourself on the deepest level possible so that you can banish self-doubt forever.

It’s about deep inner connection, freedom and empowerment which in combination result in unwavering worthiness. 

I did it. And so have hundreds of my 1-1 clients. Now, I’d love you to join us.

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🤍 Being crystal-clear about who you are, what you stand for and what you want your life to look like.

🤍 Knowing that whatever challenges present themselves you will make it happen and achieve what you want to achieve, confidently and unwaveringly.

🤍 Enjoying the process of healing, growing, creating and turning your desires and dreams into tangible realities, wealth and fulfilment.

🤍 Having a deeply positive impact on others, feeling irresistibly attractive, being sought after in your career or business and receiving raving reviews.

🤍 Thriving in your career and having no competition because your success is based on your soul-aligned message that attracts perfectly matched clients and work opportunities.

"Okay But How Do I Get Rid of My Cloak of Surrender?"

Perfectionism Tips

Notice when you're starting to second-guess your choices,  doubt yourself, waver or hesitate to take action. Notice when your anxiety increases. What are the symptoms that show up for you?

Get very clear about this so that every time you notice yourself drawn into it you can consciously choose to take a break to ground yourself in the present moment, clear your mind and calm your body. 

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Re-evaluate how you want to show up and how you want to live your life. What would life feel like for you if you allowed yourself to choose what you wanted to choice without worrying about whether it was the right choice or not? Could you learn to just let yourself have the experience of choosing so that you could learn from it? To just maybe have that experience instead of not having it? 

Sometimes the only reason we continue a pattern or habit is because we have not asked ourselves in a long time whether we still need it or not. When we realise that it has actually become redundant, it's much easier to ditch it and replace with with something healthier and more effective. 

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If you have already followed the hundreds of tips and tricks you can find online and not much has shifted for you, it shows that your surrender traits are staying in place because an unresolved pattern drives them.

Everything we do makes sense. If it felt safe for you to take off the Cloak of Surrender, you would be doing so. You can try to uncover the deeper patterns but most of us need help from the outside in doing so. I specialise in uncovering unconscious patterns because once they're conscious and everything begins to make sense to you, it's much easier to let go of outdated safety strategies that now keep us stuck in old patterns.

 

You Are Free To Succeed 

Let me teach you how to activate your gifts, your worthiness and your potential without feeling held back by your fears

Unburden yourself by taking off the Cloak of Surrender and maybe any other cloaks that stop you from truly standing up for yourself, shining your light and going for it.

You can attract the most perfect people into your life just by being the real you. You can feel loved, chosen and worthy of being loved and chosen. You can feel comfortable with being desired and attracting others to you.

You can also attract money, great wealth and fulfilment into your life by using your gifts and passions. The times of waiting, hustling, people-pleasing, hiding yourself and playing small are over. It's easy when you're in alignment and playing to your strengths. 

That's soul-aligned success. 

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Carol, UK

"Marlena has helped me find my voice and I feel stronger than ever! It's like I found myself again. My family problems were also resolved in just a few weeks. Thank you so much!"

 

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Sam, UK

"I just needed to know what was reasonable and what wasn't and now I have no problem saying no to anyone. I'm still polite but I'm definitely not being messed around anymore."

 

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Helena, US

"Marlena showed me that not setting boundaries was actually causing the problems I tried to avoid by not setting boundaries. Doing it now is a no-brainer!"

 

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