Your Boundary Block: AVOIDING CONFLICT
Your replies indicate that trying to avoid conflict stops you from setting boundaries.
You’re friendly, kind and caring. People love having you around. You bring a lot of harmony to all your relationships.
Sometimes that's because you don’t set any boundaries or represent yourself authentically trying to avoid tension, confrontation or conflict.
Of course that’s understandable! No one really likes conflict. And yet, conflict is a natural byproduct of being in relationships with other people.
When you go out of your way to avoid conflict, you lose out, you compromise yourself and you let other people get away with unwanted or maybe even inappropriate behaviours.
The downside to your strategy is that often ends in you distancing yourself from the people you don’t set boundaries with and letting the relationship fizzle out. Maybe you even end it abruptly ...
So in the end it's not setting boundaries with others that costs you that relationship.
Your big challenge?
Setting boundaries that may cause short-term tension or conflict but have positive long-term effects.
You can learn to create even more enjoyable, secure, fulfilling and connected relationships with others when you allow for the occasional tension to arise which gives you both an opportunity to figure out how to make the relationship work better for both of you.
This is all about seeing the possibility of conflict arising as an opportunity to get to know each other better, to bond more, to form a deeper connection and to create a lasting relationship.
Read on to discover the boundary boosts that will help you to speak your truth while simultaneously improving your relationships.
You Are Ready To Speak Your Truth, Attract People Who Love You For Who You Are, Feel Confident & Create Relationships In Which You Matter And Feel Truly Loved
Hello I'm Marlena!
I’m a psychotherapist, relationship and self-transformation coach who helps ambitious and kind people who care, do and love too much in the wrong relationships, rebuild themselves, find their voice and power, step into worthiness mode and create the happy and healthy relationships they deserve.
Because no matter what has happened in your past, you can get the love you need and create a magnificent life full of love, wealth and success. And I am living proof of that!
I can give you the tools you need to succeed in your relationships, feel comfortable and confident in your life and excited to show up unapologetically while attracting amazing people who love you for who you really are so you finally feel chosen, appreciated and loved.
DISCOVER YOUR BOUNDARY BOOSTS!
1. Neutralise experiencing disagreements and conflict.
Learn to see conflict as something that is part of everyone’s life. It is nothing negative; it’s just something that happens every now and then. Like getting the occasional cold, it’s not something you have to like in order to accept it.
Experiencing conflict doesn’t mean that you’re doing anything wrong. It’s just another form of self expression in which two people’s points of view clash at that moment in time.
It doesn’t last unless you see conflict is something so terrible that it has to end your relationship ... in which case it's not the actual conflict that destroys your relationship, it's your view of conflict and the belief that it’s unacceptable and intolerable that does.
2. Self-soothe your way into honest self-expression.
It’s incredibly helpful to learn how to self soothe so that when you have difficult conversations with others you do not get overly anxious or angry. This is about staying calm so that you can express yourself openly instead of becoming defensive or argumentative.
Focus on calming your nervous system down. Take some deep, slow breaths. Come back to the present moment and remind yourself that you are safe even if someone else might be annoyed, angry or disappointed with you.
Remind yourself that expressing yourself honestly is simply sharing what’s going on for you and isn’t a threat to anyone who cares about you.
3. Take personal responsibility for your wellbeing.
Always remember that setting boundaries means proactively taking responsibility for your wellbeing. It’s a sign of emotional maturity and personal growth. People will respect you more for you and you will feel more confident and empowered in your life.
Look at all the positive ways that boundary setting is good for you and for those you love and make a list that you can read daily.
Reflect on what taking responsibility for your wellbeing looks like to you. Write down your thoughts and create a little message that encourages you to represent yourself and stand up for yourself whenever you need to set limits around what does and doesn’t benefit your wellbeing.
A BONUS Boost Personally From Me To You
Watch this short video to learn my favourite and most empowering boundary boost that has given me back my voice and allows me to be unapologetically me in relationships without offending other people.
BUT WAIT!!!
You're Ready Right Now to Ditch The Guilt & Set Boundaries To Create Amazing Relationships In Which You Feel Loved, Heard & Appreciated?
Then 'Together in Truth & Love' Is The Perfect Next Step For You!
Learn the 5 empowering boundary-setting methods that will allow you to say what you want to say without feeling guilty, selfish or unreasonable and create healthy and reciprocal relationships from the start!
Speak Your Truth
Say what you want and mean what you say without doubting or questioning yourself.
Grow In Confidence
Know that what you are saying matters and that you're not being unreasonable.
Feel Heard
Finally feel heard and understood and know that you matter to the other person.
Be Loved
Know that you are loved for who you are and feel safe and free to open up to your loved ones.
Imagine You Felt Free To Say What You Need to Say ...
What would that be like for you?
To say no when you need to and to say yes when you want to?
To consider what you want and not to simply choose what others want?
To never feel guilty or selfish for being honest about what's going on for you?
To know that others like you for who you are because they truly know you?
To set boundaries completely guilt-free no matter who you're talking to?
Imagine ...
SET GUILT-FREE BOUNDARIES
with 'Together in Truth & Love'.
Create amazing, enjoyable and respectful relationships that are easy to enjoy, make your life better and boost your self-esteem.
Learn when to set boundaries and how to word them in a way that is non-confrontational and instead helps you to connect on a deeper level.
Apply this powerful knowledge to all types of relationships and watch your connections with others improve and thrive.
Carol, UK
"Marlena has helped me find my voice and I feel stronger than ever! It's like I found myself again. My family problems were also resolved in just a few weeks. Thank you so much!"
Sam, UK
"I just needed to know what was reasonable and what wasn't and now I have no problem saying no to anyone. I'm still polite but I'm definitely not being messed around anymore."
Helena, US
"Marlena showed me that not setting boundaries was actually causing the problems I tried to avoid by not setting boundaries. Doing it now is a no-brainer!"
'Together in Truth & Love' Is PERFECT For You If ...
🤍 You are ready to be your most empowered, confident and secure self in all of your relationships.
🤍 You want to be deeply connected to your partner and feel like each other's soulmates.
🤍 You want to express yourself, speak out and speak up honestly without feeling guilty, selfish or out of order.
🤍 You want to surround yourself with people who truly care about you and who you feel safe opening up to.
🤍 You want to feel more confident in your career too, be more assertive and reach your next goal.
Working with Marlena has helped me find my voice again. I used to be feisty but I feel like I lost myself in the last few years. Her ways of looking at things really make sense and so it was easy for me to be more assertive again and set boundaries with my husband. That's totally changed my relationship and made it a million times better!
– Aimee, US
HERE'S WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
✔️ Get crystal-clear on when you need to set a boundary so you never have to question yourself ever again.
✔️ Learn 5 different ways to state a boundary so you're never lost for words again.
✔️ Discover what to do when someone doesn't respect your boundaries or challenges you.
✔️ Learn how to set a boundary without feeling guilty, mean or selfish.
✔️ Find out how to improve every area of your life - romance, family, friends & business - by setting better boundaries.
✔️ Discover the most powerful secret that will help you attract the perfect partner, friend or client.
Here's What I've Learnt In My Own Life
I was brought up to be the good girl and to not annoy, inconvenience or offend anyone so I believed that being easy-going was the most important thing in relationships.
This is not the case. I got it wrong.
Today I know that what matters more than anything if you want to have a healthy, happy and loving relationship is to be honest about what works and doesn't work for you, about what you like and don't like, want and don't want.
Your truth won't harm the right relationship.
Instead, it will set you free, allow you to grow and experience a deep and nourishing love like no other.
Your truth matters.
And so, I wanted to create a simple but powerful and potent program for you that teaches you 5 different ways to say what you need to say without being offensive or confrontational.
Because self-expression is an act of love.
You're doing a person who loves you a disservice by hiding your truth from them. Never mind yourself ...
You're ready now to find your voice, speak your truth and give people the privilege of truly getting to know you so that they can choose you and create the most amazing relationship with you.
Your time is now and I'm here to help you learn how to set guilt-free boundaries with love, respect and kindness.
I'm Ready to Learn 5 Powerful Boundary Methods, Feel Confident & Transform My Relationships
