Your Boundary Block: PEOPLE-PLEASING
Your replies indicate that needing to be liked stops you from setting boundaries.
You are everyone’s friend! People love you because you are just so nice.
They love being around you because you know what they’re like, you know what they want and you’re amazing at giving it to them.
It’s obvious why people are drawn to you and why they love having you around!
But sometimes this can lead to you ending up in one-sided relationships where you give and give and give any other person takes and takes and takes.
It doesn’t fulfil you in the long run and you don’t necessarily feel appreciated or cared about.
Who would if their relationship was all about giving to the other person without ever being acknowledged for it or receiving anything back?
Your big challenge?
Focusing more on what you want to give (and to whom!) instead of focusing on what you think others expect or want from you so that they keep liking you.
This is about learning to allow yourself to be who you truly are and letting other people make up their own minds about you.
I know that that can be hard when you have dedicated and devoted your live to making other people happy. But let’s be honest, has this ever brought you true and lasting happiness?
Trying to please other people isn’t necessarily wrong but it is harmful when it leads to you neglecting yourself or failing to consider your own wants and needs and making them matter.
And so you have to truly challenge yourself to only start offering and doing things you want to do or that are also good for you.
Healthy relationships consist of two or more people where each person chooses to like the other person not for what they do for them but for who they are.
You’re ready to step into that next level of creating honest relationships in which you feel like you truly matter to the other person and that they like you for who you are not for what you can do for them..
The desire to be in a relationship like that is healthy so go with it, lean into it and make it happen!
Read on to discover the boundary boosts that will help you to speak your truth while simultaneously improving your relationships.
You Are Ready To Speak Your Truth, Attract People Who Love You For Who You Are, Feel Confident & Create Relationships In Which You Matter And Feel Truly Loved
Hello I'm Marlena!
I’m a psychotherapist, relationship and self-transformation coach who helps ambitious and kind people who care, do and love too much in the wrong relationships, rebuild themselves, find their voice and power, step into worthiness mode and create the happy and healthy relationships they deserve.
Because no matter what has happened in your past, you can get the love you need and create a magnificent life full of love, wealth and success. And I am living proof of that!
I can give you the tools you need to succeed in your relationships, feel comfortable and confident in your life and excited to show up unapologetically while attracting amazing people who love you for who you really are so you finally feel chosen, appreciated and loved.
DISCOVER YOUR BOUNDARY BOOSTS!
1. Check in with yourself.
You need to break the cycle of pleasing others without considering yourself first.
So whenever someone asks you something, pause. Give yourself a moment to consider yourself.
Ask yourself what you want in this situation. What would be good for you? What would work for you?
Then respond based on that.
Your boundaries fall into the space between what you want and don’t want so the clearer you are around that, the easier it will get to set boundaries.
Pleasing yourself and others helps you create healthy, loving and respectful win-win relationships.
2. Like Yourself More.
People-pleasing is a sign that you need others to like you because you don’t quite like yourself enough yet.
But as everyone likes so many different things, you can never truly please everyone so that leaves you on insecure grounds.
Instead of being pulled in all different kinds of directions by trying to please everyone, begin to focus on pleasing yourself.
How would you have to be to like yourself more? What actions do you have to take that will help you think more highly of yourself?
Also, when being pulled into the people-pleasing pattern, pause and ask yourself whether you actually like the other person because why would you want someone to like you that you don’t like?
3. Let others please you.
Yes, you read that right! How about you let others please you too so they get to feel good about themselves too?
We all want to be good for other people so give them an opportunity to be good for you.
Tell the people you like and love what you like, want, need … what feels good to you … open up to them and let them step up and show you that they care about you.
The best way to teach others how to please you is to set boundaries with them. 'Yes please' to this and 'No thank' you to that. Easy easy! And super-friendly.
The people who really care about you will thank you for it!
A BONUS Boost Personally From Me To You
Watch this short video to learn my favourite and most empowering boundary boost that has given me back my voice and allows me to be unapologetically me in relationships without offending other people.
BUT WAIT!!!
You're Ready Right Now to Ditch The Guilt & Set Boundaries To Create Amazing Relationships In Which You Feel Loved, Heard & Appreciated?
Then 'Together in Truth & Love' Is The Perfect Next Step For You!
Learn the 5 empowering boundary-setting methods that will allow you to say what you want to say without feeling guilty, selfish or unreasonable and create healthy and reciprocal relationships from the start!
Speak Your Truth
Say what you want and mean what you say without doubting or questioning yourself.
Grow In Confidence
Know that what you are saying matters and that you're not being unreasonable.
Feel Heard
Finally feel heard and understood and know that you matter to the other person.
Be Loved
Know that you are loved for who you are and feel safe and free to open up to your loved ones.
Imagine You Felt Free To Say What You Need to Say ...
What would that be like for you?
To say no when you need to and to say yes when you want to?
To consider what you want and not to simply choose what others want?
To never feel guilty or selfish for being honest about what's going on for you?
To know that others like you for who you are because they truly know you?
To set boundaries completely guilt-free no matter who you're talking to?
Imagine ...
SET GUILT-FREE BOUNDARIES
with 'Together in Truth & Love'.
Create amazing, enjoyable and respectful relationships that are easy to enjoy, make your life better and boost your self-esteem.
Learn when to set boundaries and how to word them in a way that is non-confrontational and instead helps you to connect on a deeper level.
Apply this powerful knowledge to all types of relationships and watch your connections with others improve and thrive.
Carol, UK
"Marlena has helped me find my voice and I feel stronger than ever! It's like I found myself again. My family problems were also resolved in just a few weeks. Thank you so much!"
Sam, UK
"I just needed to know what was reasonable and what wasn't and now I have no problem saying no to anyone. I'm still polite but I'm definitely not being messed around anymore."
Helena, US
"Marlena showed me that not setting boundaries was actually causing the problems I tried to avoid by not setting boundaries. Doing it now is a no-brainer!"
'Together in Truth & Love' Is PERFECT For You If ...
🤍 You are ready to be your most empowered, confident and secure self in all of your relationships.
🤍 You want to be deeply connected to your partner and feel like each other's soulmates.
🤍 You want to express yourself, speak out and speak up honestly without feeling guilty, selfish or out of order.
🤍 You want to surround yourself with people who truly care about you and who you feel safe opening up to.
🤍 You want to feel more confident in your career too, be more assertive and reach your next goal.
Working with Marlena has helped me find my voice again. I used to be feisty but I feel like I lost myself in the last few years. Her ways of looking at things really make sense and so it was easy for me to be more assertive again and set boundaries with my husband. That's totally changed my relationship and made it a million times better!
– Aimee, US
HERE'S WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
✔️ Get crystal-clear on when you need to set a boundary so you never have to question yourself ever again.
✔️ Learn 5 different ways to state a boundary so you're never lost for words again.
✔️ Discover what to do when someone doesn't respect your boundaries or challenges you.
✔️ Learn how to set a boundary without feeling guilty, mean or selfish.
✔️ Find out how to improve every area of your life - romance, family, friends & business - by setting better boundaries.
✔️ Discover the most powerful secret that will help you attract the perfect partner, friend or client.
Here's What I've Learnt In My Own Life
I was brought up to be the good girl and to not annoy, inconvenience or offend anyone so I believed that being easy-going was the most important thing in relationships.
This is not the case. I got it wrong.
Today I know that what matters more than anything if you want to have a healthy, happy and loving relationship is to be honest about what works and doesn't work for you, about what you like and don't like, want and don't want.
Your truth won't harm the right relationship.
Instead, it will set you free, allow you to grow and experience a deep and nourishing love like no other.
Your truth matters.
And so, I wanted to create a simple but powerful and potent program for you that teaches you 5 different ways to say what you need to say without being offensive or confrontational.
Because self-expression is an act of love.
You're doing a person who loves you a disservice by hiding your truth from them. Never mind yourself ...
You're ready now to find your voice, speak your truth and give people the privilege of truly getting to know you so that they can choose you and create the most amazing relationship with you.
Your time is now and I'm here to help you learn how to set guilt-free boundaries with love, respect and kindness.
I'm Ready to Learn 5 Powerful Boundary Methods, Feel Confident & Transform My Relationships
